Life is filled with defining moments. These moments can be so powerful that they can alter the trajectory of our life. When these events happen from a place of kindness, they can often remind us that we are worthy, loved and appreciated. They can restore our faith in humanity, remind us that someone cares and awaken compassion. These events don’t necessarily have to be BIG, like having a surprise birthday party thrown in your honor; they can be small, sweet and so meaningful.
When I was growing up, my parents were authentically kind. They were kind with their time, food and money; especially for those who were suffering. Frequently people who knew my parents comment on their kindness and share a personal story. Not surprisingly, I have come to deeply value kindness as one of my core values.
When I think of a single act of kindness that changed my life, I specifically think of a simple, defining event that happened well over 30 years ago.
I was working for my parents’ in their bakery delivering baked goods to businesses and vendors, and one day during a snowstorm, I accidently backed up into someone’s vehicle putting a sizable dent in their truck without as much of a nick in my van.
The person must have seen the absolute fear written all over my face. I had never gotten into an accident before and was completely shaken up. The gentleman was so kind; he leaned over the dent, rubbed it with his hand then turned to me and told me not to worry. “That’s why we have insurance”, he said, sending me on my way.
I remember feeling so relieved that I didn’t have to tell my father! Although my parents were kind people, my father had little tolerance for carelessness. That man’s compassion has stayed with me all this time and I know for sure it has helped form my capacity to forgive others for mistakes and mishaps. A reminder that we all are all human and that at times I need to cut other’s some slack – let them off the hook. I sure did appreciate it when it happened to me!
I truly believe that I have been so blessed in my life with so much shared kindness and generosity and I know from experience that practicing kindness means there is a greater chance that someone's day will go just a little bit better... and so will yours!
The beloved Mr. Rogers, the quintessential example of kindness, authentically lived by his three rules for happiness; “Be Kind, Be Kind and Be Kind!”
Kindness is a practice; it is not enough to have kindness as an intention, it also requires action. The more you share kindness, the more you will receive it. And, if one of your deepest longings is to see and experience a kinder world… remember that kindness begins with you!
If there is light in the soul, there will be beauty in the person.
If there is beauty in the person, there will be harmony in the house.
If there is harmony in the house, there will be order in the nation.
If there is order in the nation, there will PEACE in the world.
— Chinese proverb